Toddler's Outrage Is Actually A Good Thing And Here's Why

Articles Jun 26, 2019 03:53

Being parents and dealing with your child's tantrum is probably one of the worst thing ever, you might think. But did you know that those tantrums happen for a good reason.

Here at Break we’ve studied the advantages of little kids’ tantrums, and here’s what we’ve learned.

1. Your child is learning how to deal with disappointing situations.

Toddlers Outrage Is Actually A Good Thing And Heres Why

Tantrums often occur as a result of a child hearing a “No” from their parents. While you may not want to see your child acting out when they hear your refusal, you have to set their limits firmly. Life does not always go the way we want, and the sooner a child understands this, the sooner he or she will learn how to cope with disappointment. By working through tough emotions your child will learn how to cope with their anger and fears, instead of stuffing them inside.

2. Your child feels safe enough to share their emotions with you.

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  If your kid throws a tantrum right in front of you, it means he or she feels safe enough to feel how they feel and live through their emotions in your presence. Be compassionate and help your kid cry out all their anger, fears, and frustration and let these things go.

Neither kids nor adults choose what to feel, but adults can actually choose how to act when experiencing their emotions. Little kids cannot control their behavior when they’re angry or upset. It’s highly important that instead of telling your child to stop crying and punishing them for feeling strong emotions, you maintain the atmosphere of trust and comfort.

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3. Tantrums help your kid get rid of stress.

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As adults we know that crying is our natural release valve that helps us get rid of stress, anxiety, and disappointment. This is true for little kids as well. If your toddler’s tantrum is accompanied by tears, they will get rid of the excess stress hormones that trigger anxiety.

Bottled up emotions can also result in sleep issues. A child that has successfully regulated their emotions through meltdowns and even tears, will have an easier time falling asleep and staying asleep through the whole night.

4. Your child can “enjoy” crying without being judged.

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As we grow older we learn how to keep our feelings inside. We suppress them and we seldom let ourselves cry, or even discuss our fears and worries with friends or family. Emotional breakdowns are frowned upon by society, which can make adulthood very stressful. Toddlers are still at the age that they can express their emotions and be understood, before they grow up and start having to think about how they look in the eyes of the public.

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5. Tantrums improve the learning process.

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As kids learn, they encounter problems that they have never faced before and they don’t know how to solve them. Expressing frustration through crying is a positive reaction that helps a child to live through their negative emotions and let them go. Once they’re done with crying, they will normally come back to solving the problem with a renewed sense of determination.

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6. Tantrums form a mechanism for lifelong emotional regulation.

Toddlers Outrage Is Actually A Good Thing And Heres Why
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We learn as we grow older, and managing one’s emotions is something that needs to be learned as well. With time, children realize that communicating their anger and anxiety through words is the best way to cope with these feelings. But in order to acquire mature skills like decision making, your kid needs to try the “wrong” ways, as well.

Of course, you may still be embarrassed when having to comfort your kid who is crying out loud in a public place, but you are certainly not the first and won’t be the last parent to go through this. Keep reminding yourself that tantrums come and go, and this is just a necessary stage of your child’s growing up.

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