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6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

Articles Jul 31, 2019 00:19

Polite people have the skill to make small talk, which benefits both life and work. Even then sometimes they unintentionally ask some sensitive questions that offend some people and wish to isolate themself. Here are 6 of those sensitive questions that polite people just don't ask .

We at Break have analyzed the questions that people ask strangers in conversations most often. We chose ones that you’re better off avoiding — especially if you want to make good contacts and carry on a good conversation.

1. “Is that your mother?”

6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

If you don’t know for sure what kind of a relationship people in front of you have, you’d better not try to guess and name the variants. It’s likely that your interlocutor will be pushed away by questions such as:

“Is it your mother/sister/brother/son?”

“Are you related?”

You can mistakenly call an elder sister a mother, or call people who don’t like each other relatives. Resembling each other can be a big offense for them. It’s much simpler and more polite to make the conclusion about what relationship status people in front of you have by watching their behavior, mannerisms, and speech.

2. “How long have you been together?”

6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

People like to talk about their own relationships and the relationships of others. However, if your interlocutors aren’t sharing their relationship status right away, you’d better not ask them how long they’ve been seeing each other and whether they are married or not.

People in front of you might turn out to be simple acquaintances who decided to come to the party together. Questions about marriage can be unpleasant for couples that have disagreements on this topic.

3. “When are you going to have a baby?”

6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

Here are some other questions you are better off avoiding:

“Do you have kids?”

“Are you pregnant?”

“Did you want a baby boy or a baby girl?”

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We can assure you that any mother of multiple kids repeatedly gets asked the question, “Are they all yours?” This likely makes her go mad! A question about having kids can annoy child-free couples and upset those who can’t have a baby. Additionally, the pregnancy topic can sound like a tease or a hint about being overweight.

If your interlocutor came with kids, it’s better to ask about their interests and if they’re without kids, it’s better to find a more neutral topic for your initial conversation.

4. “Will it stay forever?”

6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

Of course, people are less likely to speak about obvious and visible health issues of their interlocutor but they often ask irrelevant questions about the specifics of one’s appearance like:

“Was it painful?”

“Is it real?”

“Where did you get your [blank] done?”

Very few people actually find it interesting to tell strangers about their tattoos, piercings, and dreadlocks. Moreover, one should never touch other people or items on them — it’s a violation of personal space.

Asking about cosmetic procedures a person has undergone is not an indicator of good manners either. Even if you’re sure that the person in front of you visits a solarium, you shouldn’t ask them for salon contacts. Perhaps this person wants to pretend that this is their natural skin color and your question might spoil their mood.

5. “Why do you need it?”

6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

Hobbies are a good topic for small talk — It can make strangers good friends. However, there is also a range of questions that can embarrass an interlocutor. For example, asking why a person needs 5 dogs or why they have such an expensive hobby is definitely not a pleasant question. Your interlocutor might think that you consider their hobbies silly.

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6. “How much does it cost?”

6 Sensitive Questions That Polite People Never Ask

Few people ask their interlocutors how much they earn. Instead, they might try to find out how much experts in this sphere earn in general.

Moreover, people don’t like to admit that their salary is not that high and they simply like their job. Or that they don’t like their job and want to change it but haven’t found the right opportunity yet. Anyway, questions about money and remunerations are too personal to be asked.

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“How much was it?”

Purchases can be another uncomfortable topic. Perhaps you simply asked about the cost of the item because your friend has recently bought the same thing and you simply want to compare the prices. But your interlocutor might think that you’re trying to assess their financial status and their ability to afford certain purchases.

How to answer embarrassing questions:

What if someone asks you unpleasant questions? The following actions might be of great help:

Change the topic.

Give a short answer.

Refuse to answer.

Very often, ignoring a question will be enough to make your interlocutor understand that it’s embarrassing for you. Changing the topic and giving a short answer is also a good signal that you don’t like it.

However, if your interlocutor insists on the answer, you can simply say, “I don’t want to talk about it, let’s change the topic.” It’s much better than getting angry, nervous, and irritated at the topic you don’t like.

Questions set the course of the conversation. Learning to ask them correctly means becoming a good interlocutor who attracts other people. Have you ever faced an embarrassing situation because of awkward questions?

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